Of course there’s nothing wrong with platonic relationships! Being a groupie isn’t about having sex with bands, it’s a whole range of things. Being friends with some musicians is what keeps me going, personally. There are people I know romantically/flirt with/whatever/etc, and I know that wont last forever but I know I’ll always have my platonic people behind me no matter how things go :)
Being a groupie is all about appreciating music, and we don’t need to do that with our bodies exclusively, we can talk to the musicians in ways that nongroupies can’t, it’s a special kind of relationship. If you don’t want to have sex with someone, never let them make you feel like you have to - because you don’t!
Yes, groupies do have sex with musicians, but that’s not what it is all about. Let’s fix this “groupie = someone who has sex with bands” idea and expand it.
Posted on 20th August 2014 with 0 notes
It’s one of those things that gets easier over time! The more musicians you meet, the less starstruck you’ll get (although of course there’ll always be that one favourite musician that you will be starstruck over).
For now, just think that they’re normal people just like you and I, the only difference is that they get up onstage and play music to an audience. Just keep thinking that they’re normal people, it should help!
Posted on 19th August 2014 with 0 notes
If you feel comfortable doing so and if it feels like the right thing to do, then do it. If there isn’t that chemistry there, then don’t. It’s all up to you. I’m sorry, I would love to help you out but I really can’t tell if it’ll be a good idea or not. Everyone is different and it’s impossible to give advice beyond “judge the situation and do what you feel comfortable and confident doing”!
Posted on 18th August 2014 with 0 notes
I don’t know your age or his age, so I’m not sure how to answer. But if you’re not talking a huge gap, why not go say hi after their show (mention via text or instant message or whatever beforehand that you’re going!)? Communication is key - judge how things are going and react accordingly, I cant tell you to do X y or z because I am not involved in this, and it’s best to act on your own merit than taking advice from other people when it comes to starting relationships and things.
But honestly, talking to people is much better than not talking to people. You can give it a go or you can carry on as you are now, without taking the chance.
A little off track here, but so many people message us about texting or Facebook. I do think that talking face to face is so much better than social networking. It is more mature, without a doubt. I know it’s what you’re used to, but it’s so much more sincere and genuine when people can say things face to face, from asking someone out to sharing feelings. Honestly itll help so many people grow.
Posted on 17th August 2014 with 0 notes
For anyone who needs it, this blog may help.
Posted on 16th August 2014 with 0 notes
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