"Just want to share some advice: Not being silent can hurt a lot of people. When a band, or someone associated to one, let’s you get close and starts to trust you, don’t break that trust! The touring world is smaller than you think. The not so nice things you do to or say about someone have a way of getting back to that person. A friend in my circle is learning this the hard way. People are getting into fights on the road because she said something she should have kept quiet. Friends are mad at each other. Things at gig went wrong. Hopefully things will cool down over the holidays as people are rest at home. Just be careful what you say and who you say it to. And if you think it’s something you shouldn’t share, keep it to yourself."
Anonymous asked: Hey - I was just wondering if you had any tips about getting backstage/meeting a band at a big concert, like with major security? What are the chances of someone just liking the look of you and inviting you backstage? :)
I think I’ve said this multiple times…randomly being spotted at big shows isn’t common. It does happen, but it’s more about having a tonne of luck. I people expect this or want this to happen to them cos they see it happen in the movies and they think it’s as easy as it is on screen, but reality is much different.
I don’t have tips for trying to get backstage or through security at big shows cos I don’t recommend it. I encourage people to start with smaller bands, at big places it’s hard to be spotted.
Some people like to wait around the buses, but I think that’s intrusive and it comes off as a bit sketchy to me. It’s a massive terrible cliche that girls at shows offer sexual favours to security to get backstage, I don’t condone that either. Do what you want but the bands will know you got there through the security guys.
But yeah, start with smaller bands. Maybe they’ll get to support a bigger band one day and you’ll get into the arenas that way. But being around famous people shouldn’t be your aim, that’s not what this blog is about anyway.
Anonymous asked: The fear of being looked at as a fangirl can be solved simply. Ask yourself how you want to be viewed by the band. Some girls want to be that "number one fan". Go for it! If they want to be a potential friend or romantic partner, then think how you'd approach an every day person. Being a musician doesn't make them any less of a human being. Would you want someone to ask you on a date with your face on a tshirt? No. However, you'd want all people to enjoy your creation of music regardless.
Thanks for sending this in! Some great advice, couldn’t have put it better myself.
- Sofia xx